My Miracle is here...

On 19th April 2017, I and husband arrived hospital on 6.30 AM. Directly went to delivery room and waited nurse for last checked up. Nurses came in, asked me to change, checked my blood pressure (which is a bit higher because I am so nervous), put microlax in me to push out the bladder (ouchh it's really hurt!) and USG listening to my baby's heartbeat. Yes, the last heartbeat USG in mommy's tummy and I couldn't wait to hear my baby's heartbeat from my ears.

My papa and mama arrived not long after that, asking me whether I am okay. I felt really not good (because of microlax) and nervous. I was trembling. I asked my husband to hold my cold hands. Anddd, nurses came in again to bring me to operating room. Luckily, doctor allowed my husband to witness my delivery.

When I was outside the operating room waiting for doctor, they didn't allow my husband to go inside first. My anesthetist came and said hello to me. Holding my hands and talk to me. He knows I was nervous and laugh at me. He said it's okay, all will be fine and said good luck to me.

Going inside the operating room, it's really cold. I can't see clearly because they didn't allow me to wear any contact lenses or glasses. After I stopped below the big-with so many-lamps (I don't know what it named), I looked around. Doctor has not arrived yet. But there were some nurses walked and prepared all the delivery things. They listened to Maroon 5 songs, man! Haha! And it made me a bit relaxed.

My anesthetist came in and asked me to sit down. Caesarean birth is not that easy like what people think. He saw my tattoo on my back and spelled it out. I laugh nervously. Then he injected the epidural inside my lower back. Really hurt! I told you it's hurt a lot. Then he asked me to back to sleep position and I slowly can't feel my feet. They tied my both hands, one for blood pressure checking and one to avoid my hand moved.

I waited around 10 minutes until my doctor came in. He said hi to me, and asked me whether I am ready. I said yes. And he asked nurses to call my husband. Inside the operating room, doctor and nurses told jokes. But I didn't (want) to hear what they were saying, just hoping my husband to came in soon. I don't know but I think it's too long, at last my husband came in. Nurse told doctor that my husband is here, and doctor instructed to start the surgery.

My husband directly recorded the process, and touch my cheek to calm me. I heard noises but I don't care. I watched my blood came out and pumping besides me. I was blank and dizzy because of the anesthetic. Then I heard my doctor said "PUSH!" Suddenly my anesthetist besides me pushed my tummy several times. I felt so terribly shocked but then I felt something came out from my tummy and made me feel so free and light. I couldn't see anything but I saw my baby was taken to other place. Pediatrician took my baby and called my husband. I only saw my baby hands swinging while they took them.

Not long, I heard my baby cried! Yes, my baby is here! I cried, could not stop crying. My anesthetist asked me not to cry, and wiped my tears. I heard the pediatrician said loud to my husband, "Your little baby boy was born, normal and complete, length 49 cm, weight 2.7 kg." I said to myself, hey, my baby is so small eh?

My husband came to see me and said, "Hey honey, our baby boy is so handsome!" I laughed and nurse came to let me see my baby. Oh my baby has stopped crying, eye closed but I can see his red lips. I kissed him and cried again. Nurse told me that she had to bring out my baby to clean him. Then, I felt relaxed and nothing I could remember. I think I fell asleep.

I was conscious when nurse pulled me out of operating room. I asked her whether all is going smooth. She smiled and said yes. She put me on a room beside operating room and my husband came. His face was full of happiness. He told me everything happened before and after surgery. And couldn't stop to tell me about

Few minutes later, nurses brought me out and I saw all my family there. They were so happy and said my baby is so cute. I asked them when they see my baby? Nurse brought my baby to let them see before going to baby room. Oh, I felt relief.

In my room, they tried to moved me to my bed, but I couldn't feel and moved my legs. I waited my baby to came to my room until noon time. He came in, so tiny and I had to see him closely even I couldn't move my body. He was sleeping, didn't open his eyes. I called his name, he even didn't move. My sleepyhead.


Needed around 1.5 days so I could move my body. On the first day, nurse keep asking me to move my body. It's really hurt to moved my body. I never felt this hurt before, worst when I was coughing. (Damn!)

On the second day, nurse told me to try to sat and walked. I still could feel all my body didn't cooperative as well. Luckily doctor said all was good and the stitches was drying well. And at last I could carry my baby on my arms. I could smell and touch his soft skin. He opened his eyes when I first carried him. He looked at me with his small eyes and I fell in love with him once again, again and again.

This is like what everyone says, having a baby is a miracle. 💓

My Pregnancy Journey

OMG, it's already more than 1 year I didn't blog.
Yes, now I am a mom! Haha! Busy? YES!

At the first time I didn't know that I was pregnant since I found my period is coming. But then, my period stopped the next day. I thought it will come again tomorrow. And yes, it came. Then stopped.

I googled about the beginning of pregnancy things, you could have some blood spots. So, I and husband decided to buy two test pack. I read that you should test it in the morning. After tested, we found that the line was blur, then we took new test pack, tested again one more time the next day and result remained the same. I googled again. Lol. Mr. Google said it can be blurred if the pregnancy is too young.

Aargh, I and husband were so happy and decided to go to Obstetrician to make sure about it.

Andddd.. Obstetrician said I am pregnant!!!

My husband took really a good care of me while I was pregnant. I were not allowed to do house things, brought my bags and drove car slowly. Luckily, I didn't have morning sickness or high demand of food. Haha...

Suddenly on my 8 weeks pregnant, I had bleeding at night while I was watching TV. We both were shocked and called my obstetrician directly. My obstetrician asked me whether I and husband did intercourse, fell down or had some medicines, I said no. My obstetrician told me to came early morning to the hospital.

I couldn't sleep and keep crying. I thought that I could lose my baby. In the morning when I peed, I saw some blood clots came out. I was hysterical and told my husband. I decided to take blood clots with me to the hospital. On the way I was so nervous, the same with my husband. His face was really shocked and worried.

We have to wait around half an hour because we arrived hospital so early and my doctor has not come yet.
When doctor came, his face was so tense when seeing us, maybe he knew that we were still so shocked. My husband showed my blood clots to doctor and doctor smiled, said it's not embryo, just a blood clots. Then doctor did the USG, and searching for baby's heartbeat. He found it and smiled, here, your little baby's heartbeat. I almost cried but happy. Then doctor said, BUT. I and husband stopped smiling. "Your embryo is almost fell down to cervix. You have to be careful and bed rest for 1 week. You have to try to keep this baby and I will give you booster. And hope your baby could stay inside." Doctor said it's 50:50 that I could keep this baby. He gave me Cygest 400mg and some medicines. My husband calmed me down and we went to my mom's house.

My mom's told me to stay with her during my pregnancy, so she could take more care of me and my husband agreed.

Five days later, I got bleeding again. This time was a lot more than the first time. I was so scared and called my husband from office. My husband hastily came home and brought me to hospital.

Doctor directly did the USG and gave us a good news. "It's okay now, baby's heartbeat is so good and embryo is going up!" I couldn't help myself not to cry. But there was a "BUT" again. He said, "Your condition is so rare. Embryo is still lying there and can't go up anymore. Placenta will stay there but baby will still going up. It's okay about that, you should have check up every two weeks from now. We will monitor your baby growth. If you got bleeding again, don't be shocked. Looked carefully of the blood, whether it's only blood or got some baby's tissue with clot. If only blood, it's okay, just take a rest. You will be more bleeding often if your embryo position stays like this." Doctor said I have to take more rest and still took the medicines every day.

Still feel not really comfort and scared about my embryo, I took really good care about my baby and talked to my baby, "Hey there my little munchkin, you have to stay there and keep strong. I know you can do it." I walked slowly, sit slowly and tried not to bring heavy things. Every two weeks we checked up and USG, and when I heard my baby's heartbeat, and it's my music to calm and made me happy. Haha, did I so overact?

Few weeks later after I went back to work and I walked around mall (Why I did that? Sigh..), I got bleeding again. But this time I was not so shocked and tried to calm down. I sat down and try to drink a lot of water (Is drinking water could wash out the blood? Lol. It's only to make me more relaxed). And the bleeding stopped not long after that.

Weeks 20, we are ready to hear whether I am having baby boy or girl. Doctor found and confirmed it's a BOY. Oh my little baby was a boy, no wonder he was so active inside there and almost fell down? Haha...

Doctor told me that I could not having a normal birth since my baby's placenta lying down low in the uterus, covering my servix (placenta previa). You can read about placenta previa here. I have to do Caesar surgery to help me smooth delivery. Nothing I could say much and a bit disappointed. But I believe everything I have to do it for my baby.

I felt his first kick around weeks 23 when I was on the car and on the way home listening to radio. I felt the little movement inside my tummy, and it's so tickling. I screamed out and told my husband. I touched and pushed back. Few weeks later, I could really feel his kicks. I always pushed back his kick to let him know I was playing with him too.

My baby boy was growing so well, but his weight was not gain much. I ate three times a day, and I only ate fruits (kiwi, dragon fruit, avocado, apple) when I was hungry. I always ate healthy food, avoid anything raw or grilled. Sometimes I ate KFC too. Haha... For fruits, I tried to avoid papaya, pineapples, pears, melon, and orange. I did googling all the time to know what is the best food for my baby's growth. Some people told me to eat whatever I wanted and eat a lot. But I didn't have any appetite to eat a lot and tried not to eat what is (I said) not good for my baby. As long as my baby is healthy, I don't want my baby to have heavy weight and chubby when he was still in my tummy.

When my last semester, I found myself hard to breathe, fast heartbeat and my bounce is not so well. I did the check up with doctor and he told me to do blood test since the symptoms is showing like I am having goiter. The test showed all is normal and fine. My doctor said this might be I ate too fast and ate a lot. I agreed with the first reason, but not the second. Lol.

The time was so close, and we decided to let me gave birth on 19th April. We told doctor and we did the hospital booking. But a week before my delivery date, my doctor told me that he could not help me for delivery because he has service out of town. He recommended me other doctor (his senior). OMG, I was so shocked since I was never looking for other doctor for checked up. My doctor gave his notes to his senior about my condition, what medicine I ate so far. The next day, I went to this senior doctor and luckily he was friendly and discussed well.

My pregnancy was not easy, I know for sure all moms felt the same too.

Honeymoon Trip - Boracay (2)

At last we arrived Hey Jude Hotel after more than 15 mins walk. Love at the first sight! The receptionist gave us the welcome drink, and it was orange juice. My husband's mood changed suddenly. Haha...

We booked the room with seaview. The room is not so big, but clean enough. We rest for a moment and started to hungry. So we decided to go out for dinner.

We walked down to the beach and going through some cafes and hotels' buffet. We saw some crowded in place named Sunset View Resto Bar and they got full menu buffet dinner. We decided to have dinner here, around Php 1000/pax. The taste were great and they serve a lot of menus. It's full of Chinese tourists. Wonder why they always talk with loud voices. 

After dinner, we walked again to the back of Sunset View Resto Bar, it was Paradise Garden Resort Hotel's garden which had beautiful view and warm hanging lamps around the garden. Then we went back to beach, we saw many kids were making castle-sand which stating Boracay. They asked us whether want to take photo but have to pay Php 20. We agreed and they took this photo beautifully. 

We continued to walk to nearest store to buy some drinks, watching some people's showing their skills in playing fireballs and going back to our hotel to get some rests. 

We planned that tomorrow would be our day to walk around the island, and held the water sport activities til the day after tomorrow. 

To be continued...

Honeymoon Trip - Boracay (1)

Super late post! Been busy as wife now. Haha! So I will just share things that I remembered.

Years ago, I and boyfriend (husband now) decided Boracay, Philippines as our honeymoon destination. We have seen some reviews and pictures about Boracay and it's beautiful! We saw Air Asia flight promos last year and bought the tickets for February 2016, it's around IDR 4mio for both of us. All the way from Medan - Kuala Lumpur - Kalibo. Hotels booked from Agoda. Total 9 at Boracay and 3 days at KL.

The day has come and we stay at KL for one day and take early flight to Kalibo. At KL, we stayed at Tune Hotel Air Asia, with small-cozy room, but a bit noisy at night. Some people were rushing to catch midnight flight, slam the door and quite disturbing. 

Flight from Kuala Lumpur to Kalibo took around 4 hours. Arriving there around 3 PM. It's really small international airport and disappointed with the toilet. We directly went to SIM Card centre outside the airport. We bought Smart SIM card, activated for 7 days internet mobile data. Forgot about the price, it's around Php 350/each I think. 

Then we saw so many agents promote about their car and boat transport to Boracay. We decided to take All In package (car from airport to Caticlan port, government fee, boat to Boracay, transport from Boracay port to hotel) around Php 2500 for both of us. 

We took some photos while on the way. From airport to port needed more than 2 hours, the driver were so slow and I felt tired. Arriving at the port, it's sooo crowded. Most of them was Korean tourists. We waited for our boat around half an hour. I and husband were a bit shocked to see the boat. It's really small boat and they put our luggage at the top of the boat roof. I was so afraid our luggage would fall to sea. But amazingly, it didn't happen. Haha... 

We read the guide of Boracay before, in here www.myboracayguide.com. Boracay is divided into 3 stations/area. Briefly, Station 1 for elite and high class hotels, Station 2 is crowded because it's the central of market, mall and midclass hotel, Station 3 is quiet and lower cost hotel.

Arrived Boracay island only around 15 mins and we need to wait for tricycle (they called it Tuk tuk) to our hotel. We told the driver our hotel name, it's Hey Jude hotel. But he didn't really know because they are 2 Hey Jude's hotel, one in Station 2 and another one in Station 3. And he even didn't know when we gave the address. Sigh! 

Luckily one of the agent's guide knew the hotel and walked with us to hotel. It was in Station 3, while the driver put us down in Station 2. Long long walked with luggage and tiring. My husband was already in bad mood because he was so tired. 

To be continued... 

Prewedding Photos

After long long waiting for my prewedding photos result (around 3 months), the result came out surprisingly good.
With my awkward smiles, I think they are good enough. Haha...

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Prewed Photoshoot

Tiring day!
It's the first time I need to say. But it was really fun.
I took 1 day leave from office on 24th July 2015 to take my prewed photoshoot.

Since early 2014, I have booked one of famous bridal in Medan, New York Art Bridal. At the first time I chose this bridal because when I came to their booth during bridal exhibition at Sun Plaza, I saw so many good pictures taken with all floral theme, which I really love it so much. The same with my boyfriend who is also agree with my opinion. So, we just go inside and one-two marketing staffs said their greetings and showed us their photo albums. Seeing their several photos, price list and location they gave for outdoor photoshoot, without any long discussion with my boyfriend, we decided to take this bridal. They gave some discount, free frame upgrade and vouchers during exhibition. We gave down payment around IDR 3.5million to proceed the booking.

Early 2015, when we already got our wedding date, we went to the bridal and saw that they have done full renovation and with great decoration of course. We are trying to find their marketing staff which was dealing with us at exhibition, but she already resigned. So, receptionist told me to wait and they will find the marketing replacement. After few minutes, one marketing staff are coming and serve us politely. Prewed date could not be booked yet as it is still too early. She promised to call me when she has set the date.

Few months later, she called me and gave the date, and I chose Sunday for my prewed photoshoot. She said the date and I am okay with the date. But few weeks later, she called me back, asking me politely whether I could change my prewed date as it's still too early again for photoshoot and told me that there might be new gowns for me to choose. At last, we agreed on 24th July.

On the weekend, I went to that bridal again for gowns' fitting. They have a lot of white gowns, and all is amazing. I am a bit disappointed with cocktail gown or party gown which is not really good as in photo albums. You have to pay some additional cost to get more beautiful gowns which is not cheap, around IDR1-2 million for one time photoshoot. So I decided not to take this additional cost and finding the gowns from the wardrobe they provided. Trying several gowns, I feel a bit tired as I need to choose so many gowns which are in small size. I am not really sure whether I am still very fat or the gowns provided is too small. I have lost 9kgs and still fat meh? LOL. Note from me, you have to give tips for the staff that helping you for fitting in the beginning, if you don't want to see their frown face.

On 23rd July, we went to bridal for final fitting. I saw many new gown and decided to change my gown again. The staff (who I already gave big tips) said okay.

Okay, on the D day, I and my boyfriend arrived bridal before 7 AM. The bridal is already opened but I need to wait for 15 mins for the make up artist. Tomy, the make up artist came and we started the make up and hair session.

We started from the indoor photoshoot. Fredy, the photographer, who is quite funny and friendly. We have great photoshoot in studio, felt a bit disappointed as I can not choose studio I want. They said studios in another floor are still in renovation progress.

They provided lunch for us. So after lunch, we are ready for outdoor photoshoot. The outdoor placed at Wonderland, special photo location for New York Art bridal only.
It took more than 1 hour by car.

It was really hot when we arrived there and after changing, we started our photoshoot immediately. I asked for place that has a lot of flowers. And photographer suggests lavender garden, pool and other sweet garden. I saw so many gardens with different flowers and views. I didn't have time to look around while it was really hot and I have to climb up the hills with wedding gown. I focused not to fall down. We were prohibited take any pictures using our own camera there and no other guests there besides customers and bridal staffs.

When we were almost done, rain was falling heavily. So we stopped and satisfied as we took many photos in so many spots.

I will get back soon with our prewed photo results! Can't wait too!

Note : Always prepared your own accessories, and slipper for outdoor photoshoot if you don't want a wedding-muddy-shoes.

Good Seller or Marketing

Sharing about how to sell something or provide services need 'manner', especially in online services. 

We are fully understand that not all of your customer is going to buy your products or use your service. But as a seller or marketing, it's your risk and obstacle. Money is not easy to get, isn't it?

I saw so many sellers nowadays, selling without any smiles, didn't reply your questions or only replied to questions that you asked or answered arrogantly. 

Are the sellers thinking that the customers who asked something meaning they won't buy anything? Wrong. Sometimes when buyer met sellers who didn't give any welcome, they will just stop and go away. Asking for the product or services details are the part of buyers' right, and answering in details are the sellers' obligation.

I feel very pity for them when I met sellers like this and thinking how they could sell their products for long period if they stay in bad 'manner'? Usually I will say nothing and just walk away or stop buying things from them. Market is bigger now, I can find anything I want somewhere else. So why should I stay buying things with sellers who didn't respect people who are going to buy and give money/profit to them? 

Well, that's my opinion about selling 'manner'.

Do you have any experience meeting those kind of sellers? What will you do? 

Diet and Sports

Well, the same with others, I should tell that I am on diet now. Tell the truth, I am not a healthy food eater. My body is really not in a good shape, with these fatty things on my belly, thighs, and back. Oh I just can't take a picture of my whole body to show to you guys.  

Lately, I have to start and try to keep healthy by eating healthy food and have a healthy body and mind. The other reason actually is just the same with other women, it's because of marriage. Haha... We need to look good, slim and perfect on prewedding picture and of course in wedding party. It is time when all your relatives and friends are looking at you as a queen. Haha... 

Well, I started with joining gym five months ago. I joined aerobic classes everyday, like dancing class, body combat, body language, and yoga. Two classes (two hours) in a day, 5-6 days in a week. It's just kind of addiction when you see the result. So far, I have lost 8 kgs weigh. Haha! 

Aerobic class really help me a lot in burning calories. I always join night time after work. Usually I will drink a cup of low fat chocolate milk or wheat cookies on 5 PM or an hour before class. It's just to give me extra stamina. 

I also have tried cold-pressed juice or everybody called detox juice. Although the juices are quite expensive, but I think the taste and result was good. After drinking this juice, I think I had diarrhea but without any pain on stomach. It seems like I had thrown out the toxins from my body. 

Breakfast
I drink detox juice in the morning (with fruits ingredients) or with wheat bread and egg, sometimes I will eat whole wheat tuna for variation. 

Lunch 
I eat 6-7 spoon of red rice. I am not really anti-salty foods. I will eat any meat (fish, chicken, pork) with variant recipes. Fried is okay for me as long I don't eat it much. Vegetable is a must in your lunch package.

Dinner
I eat after gym too, sometimes I drink detox juice (with vegetable ingredients). Any kind of soups are the best choice. Appetizer is all kind of fruits. Peanuts (boiled) are the best choice for snacks. Sometimes you will also have dinner at party or while hang out with friends, for me, it's okay to eat anything, but don't go to sleep directly if you still feel full. Usually I will take another sports again the next day to burn the calories as well.

All you need is just a commitment in doing your diet. Diet never starts tomorrow. 

You can also have a 'free day' once in a month to eat everything you want to eat without worry how much the calories, how much the fat, and bla bla. E.g. buffet... Haha...

Those are my diet and sports way to lost my weight to share to you guys. What about yours?

Skin Care Product - Artistry Amway [Review 1]

My face is normal to dry, dry especially on my cheeks and eyes area. Sometimes when I am too tired or stressed, my T-zone will get oily.

I have been using Artistry skin care product for more than 3 years. I use Essentials skincare type, which usually can be used for woman under 30 years old.

And I really really love this product. My face always smooth and moisturized. Luckily I don't have any acne problem, so I don't need any extra skincare for my face. I also give this anti-aging Artistry product to my mom. And the result is really amazing. Everybody tells my mom that she is so young for her age (she is 55 years old now).

I'd like to review all of the Artistry product I have now.

Cleanser

For cleanser, I use Artistry Essentials Balancing Cleanser. This is for Normal-Oily skin. Even my face is dry type, I prefer to use this as it's contains moisture as well. It will not make your face dry. I really like this cleanser because it will clean all my makeup, perfecto!

My mom is using Artistry Youth Xtend Rich Cleansing Foam, for all type skin. My smooth face surely I got from mom (hehe...). She loves this product, and of course because everybody said she is young, and we think it's because of this product too. Haha... 

Artistry Essentials Balancing Cleanser

Toner

There are 2 kinds of toners I use, Artistry Essentials Hydrating Toner and Artistry Essentials Balancing Toner. Why I use 2 kind of toner? I am using this Hydrating Toner when I feel that my face is really dry because I spend more times in air-con room. Another one, Balancing Toner I use if I spend more times outdoor. These two kind of toners could give freshness on my face immediately. I put on a cotton, then tap on your face lightly.

Artistry Essentials Balancing Toner (Left), Artistry Balancing Toner (Right)

Day Lotion

Artistry Essentials Balancing Lotion I use after toner. I apply on entire of my face except eyes area. This product contains SPF 15. This lotion will directly absorbed and can be used for my foundation primer. Absolutely will not make my make up faded.

Artistry Essentials Balancing Lotion

Night Lotion

Time Defiance Night Recovery Creme, night cream specially for normal-dry skin. I am surely love this cream as it will give your face moisturized all night long.

Artistry Time Defiance Creme

Anyway, for Amway member, for every 1 package of cleanser, toner and lotion purchase, there will be 20% discount for any second time cleanser purchase.

To be continued, I will blog abut anti-aging skin care product soon...

For other skin care of Artistry product, you can click the link below.
http://www.artistry.com/skin-care/products/skin-care-essentials
http://www.artistry.com/skin-care/products/anti-aging

Make Up Remover

Talking about cleansing your make up, I got some recommendation of cleansing product for any waterproof eyes and face make up. 

Camomile Sumptuous Cleansing Butter from The Body Shop
Just like its name, the packaging and contain like body butter. The smell is so good. Creamy.

I rub small amount on a cotton, and clean all the make up. It's true can remove all the waterproof make up, especially on mascara and eyeliner. I am a soft-lenses user and it is safe. It's easily washed by cleanser after that. Face will be more moisturized and fresh.

  

Artistry Gentle Action Makeup Remover
Artistry has a good makeup remover, with creamy (like milk cleanser). It's not sticky and could remove all face make up. Apply it first to all your face, do massage as well, then clean it with cotton. I can see all the powder, blush-on removed.

I prefer to use this remover to clean face makeup. For cleanin eyes makeup, I use Camomile Cleansing Butter.

Additional recommendation to use The Body Shop organic cotton pad, as it's really soft, strong and nice on skin. It's a bit expensive but I think it's worth as I can use one piece cotton to clean all make up because it's double-sided surface.

Double-sided cotton pad

Well, that's some recommendation product for cleaning your make up before use your cleanser. It's better to have your face clean up from make up before sleep. For me, clean and healthy skin is a great asset.

Relationship vs (Early) Marriage

Well, okay, this is not really a Wifey blog from my experience, as I am still a 'girlfriend' now. But, it's okay to post about a wife things and thinks, right? I can share about wives life as what I heard and seen. And I just hope I can keep writing this blog as a wife in future. 

Most of my friends are married now (it's not me who is late to get married, but they are just too early! Haha!). And most of them already had babies! Oh my, for me, I am not mentally ready to become a young mom (18-25 years old mom).

I have been in a relationship with the most amazing man, Kelvin, for more than 5 years. It's been a long long story for us to build a really strong relationship since we were in college. We are working hard together and we just bought a house with our own money (exactly on 1st January 2014).

I am really happy that I have a boyfriend who gives me chances to decide what I want to do. Even he likes me to decide everything, even where to eat, where to buy things, and everything about him. 

We have plan to get married next year, and we are trying to make it happen. Another happy things in life, I know that I will have a future with him. I don't need to be a princess that wait for his proposal. I want to plan our new life together, only two of us. 

Talking about early marriage, as Indonesian, especially Medan Chinese, most of marriages are all parents decision and intervention. Most, not all, actually. Parents to decide when, where, (how?), their children will get married. All the wedding receptions, money, house that couple will leave are well prepared by parents. I am not saying that their children are having no jobs or money, but how young-fresh graduated-couples could have a lot of savings, instead from their parents.

Sometimes I envy these young couples, because they don't have to think how they will pass their life without any worries (maybe). 

No offense, guys. I am just telling the truth, this is what I heard and seen (as I mentioned above). Besides, helping children in their marriage is not prohibited by law mah... 

In the other hand, there was one reason of early marriage, there might be a 'responsibility' of couples, to give happiness to their parents by giving them grandchildren.

The most important thing, as long the couples are ready, know how to settle every problems and promise to share their life in happiness or sadness, there are no restrictions how old you should be married.

What I love the most from my boyfriend, that we always have same thoughts too. He ever tweeted : "To all couple out there : Marriage isn't about how early or fast we need to, but how long we can keep and protect it." I am loving him more and more as he is so mature and always living in reality.

Introduction

Hi all, 

My name is Fonny Febriani Wijaya, everyone calls me Fonny. 

Live in Indonesia, North Sumatera province, Medan city.

Got inspired to make a blog to share about my life, women's life, as girlfriend and wife to be. 

I will share my activities, loves, favorite things, hobbies, stuffs that I had or wished, etc! 

Any comments are welcomed.

PS: Sorry for not-a-pro-blogger words I used. But will keep improving day by day. Haha...